Ego and Fame

The well-known phenomenon of “name dropping,” the casual mention of who you know, is part of the ego’s strategy of gaining a superior identity in the eyes of others and therefore in its own eyes through association with someone “important.”

The bane of being famous in this world is that who you are becomes totally obscured by a collective mental image.

Most people you meet want to enhance their identity---the mental image of who they are---through association with you.

They themselves may not know that they are not interested in you at all, but only in strengthening their ultimately fictitious sense of self.

They believe that through you they can be more.

They are looking to complete themselves through you,
or rather through the mental image
they have of you as a famous person,
 a larger-than-life collective conceptual identity.

The absurd overvaluation of fame
 is just one of the many manifestations
 of egoic madness in our world.

Some famous people fall into the same error
and identify with collective fiction,
the image people and the media have created of them,
and they begin to actually see themselves
as superior to ordinary mortals.

As a result, they become more and more alienated
 from themselves and others,
 more and more unhappy, more and more dependent
on their continuing popularity.

Surrounded by people who feed their inflated self-image,
they become incapable of genuine relationships.

Albert Einstein, who was admired
 as almost superhuman
and whose fate it was to become
 one of the most famous people on the planet,
never identified with the image the collective mind
had created of him.

He remained humble, egoless.

In fact, he spoke of
 “a grotesque contradiction
 between what people consider
to be my achievements and abilities
and the reality of who I am
and what I am capable of.”

This is why it is hard for a famous person to be
in a genuine relationship with others.

A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego
with its image-making and self-seeking.

In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow
of open, alert attention toward the other person
in which there is no wanting whatsoever.

That alert attention is Presence.

It is the prerequisite for any authentic relationship.

The ego always either wants something,
or if it believes there is nothing to get from the other,
it is in a state of utter indifference:

It doesn’t care about you.

And so, the three 
predominant states 
of egoic relationships 


thwarted wanting
(anger, resentment, blaming, complaining),



"A New Earth
Eckhart Tolle



"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

-Dale Carnegie-